Guys are the downfall of society

[spunkbubble]

Umm don't know if that's the right subject to put in, but hey, it'll do...

I really do not understand guys. I don't understand hardly a word you say. You lie, you cheat, but you think it's perfectly normal?

Okay, I'm making a massive generalisation here... But I've yet to see a guy treat me differently; so what's the secret?

[TwIsTeDdDx]

this is an effort to beat the "girls are the problem thread" yea?

well i dunno, but the guy to chick ratio on a media player forum *may* be a bit biast..

maybe if the topic was "who has the longest dick here", you'ld get a better reaction and a much larger thread as we bicker at each other on how "mine needs to be reeled up" and "yours is a tic-tac/lil toe"

anyways if you read the other thread you'ld understand perfectly you are the absolute problem here, not us :|

maybe if u talked less and put out more.. (also dont be so picky, whats wrong with us nerds :( )

[s1138]

hehe:D

[c2R]

Originally posted by spunkbubble
Umm don't know if that's the right subject to put in, but hey, it'll do...

I really do not understand guys. I don't understand hardly a word you say. You lie, you cheat, but you think it's perfectly normal?

Okay, I'm making a massive generalisation here... But I've yet to see a guy treat me differently; so what's the secret?

Communication's probably the problem. Like for example a girl never actually says what she means, and guys generally don't do much talking, particularly with regard to feelings.

I've also found girls to be irrational and very emotional - I remember once an ex spent an hour on the phone yelling at me as I couldn't visit her on a weekend I promised to - the fact that my car was broken down and I had to spend all weekend repairing it simply wasn't a good enough reason.

As for cheating - I've never cheated on a girl, and I never intend to. Sure there are guys that do, but I know for a fact there are girls that do aswell.

Not sure what I've said is particuarly helpful. Oh well, I'll shut up now.

[Merlin]

:D

Men have different interests to women, usually. This results in the crappy discrimination at work, the crappy supposed opinions that each sex has of the other... I mean, look at all the jokes you see/hear on TV, that are about (or rely upon for comedic effect) the differences between men and women. Plus, hardly a day goes by without someone speaking out about it.

Men don't usually understand women; Women don't usually understand men. It's just the way it is. Men have a different rationale, a different logic pattern. It's hard to explain, but it means most women can shop for hours, while most men get bored of it. It needs more explanation than I can write in a day, so I'll leave it there. :)

[randman]

You are absolutely right. Lying and cheating are not acceptable traits in either sex. And I've seen it in both. The secret is time. Given time, most boys grow out of this stage. In the meantime, stick with older men. *cough, cough* ;)

[Xerxes]

Are you in need of a Ricola or a cough drop? You could have just said so. ;)

[randman]

I'm just "in need". ;)

[Xerxes]

I have no need for relationships at this point in my life - at this point a waste of mental and financial resources.

I present to the court Exhibit A - my sister.

This allows me to watch, impartially, the ever growing number of my sister's failed relationships. Like a scientific experiment... I observe the stages of relationships: Lust, happiness, tolerance, then trouble, then uneasy peace, then more trouble, (these previous 2 repeat themselves once or twice occasionally), the climactic breakup, the "retreat to friends house", the weeklong anti-social "All Men are BASTARDS" period, then "Well, some men are OK", acceptance, and then flirtation.

Repeat ad infinitum.

The same goes for my brother as well - but the stages seem to last longer in duration. I attribute that to him giving expensive gifts early in the game (diamond earings after 2 months!).

Young people are very bad at committing to anything - a romance more so than ever. And in case they do tie the knot, half of all marriages that begin before age 20 end in divorce.

There is definitely a need to be seen among peers "with an other" to maintain social status... especcially in school... that is the tenuous string that keeps many of the "relationships" together. Observe- again, my sister as your case study. She considers entering into a thing with a guy who she thinks is somewhat obnoxius. We go to starbucks ... she wants to talk me about it. (I being the love expert of course :rolleyes:) I ask about him - she says he's funny, but sometimes takes it too far. He also makes comments about her weight. My sister is the acme of natural beauty- anything concerning her size is sorely unfounded. I say "why begin with this guy?" "I like him" "What are your goals with this relationship - do you ever want to be dumped again or is this the one? Because the coin only lands 2 ways. Either in break-up or marriage. You must confront that eventuality" No anwser, she changes the subject.

She begins to see him.

He dumps her 2 months later. She is surprised and heartbroken.

My question is why? I glean this anwser from watching similar patterns: You have to identify from the begining how both parties regard future plans. In this case, my sister was oblivious and he was interested in a short fling. Other times, my sister wanted to go all the way and he wanted it short term. And yet in others it was her who wanted the quick arrangement and the poor guy who was devoted to the end.

Both sexes have their peculiarities in reasoning, but these are variables. All guys don't cheat. Some women are entirely interested in sex. The only thing one can do is identify motivations and future plans as early on as possible, and then intelligently proceed using your knowledge.

I think Men and Women are the downfall of society.

[Xerxes]

And I should also add, it was once said "The only constant in all of your failed relationships is you"

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Myself, I prefer "ex is a variable" - seems to fit in with my life right now :)

[spunkbubble]

Exes are pure evil. :p