Have you ever just given up hope?
 

Have you ever been so sad, so down that you have just given up all hope of ever being happy again?

Yes. Every day for the last five years.

How do you deal with things when it just seems like everything would be better if you died in your sleep? Then you wouldnt have to deal with pain anymore...... I feel like even god is sick of listening to my prayers.....

No I am not thinking of killing myself....

As long as you are trying to do something positive with your life, and by that I mean help others, you should keep on living.

If you hurt, then you are supposed to pray. God wouldn't get sick of you doing as he says you should.

If all else fails (that sounds jovial, but it's how I view life) then live to make others happy...not even people you know. They'll appreciate it, and even if you can't be happy, at least you'll be helping others.

The real tragedy is people who wanted to make others happy, but died before they had the chance.

What i would do during my more unstable teenage years is just crank up some music and try to take my mind off it.....being playing the computer or watching the TV. Just DO something, and something that makes you happy.

Thanks Phyltre.

I always try to live life for others and make sure the people around me are happy.

I have lost so much in the past year.......... The pain is more than I can take it seems. I pray and pray, I keep myself busy so I dont have to think........

I just cant heal. I have lost who I am. I have lost mostly everything. I hurt so much I dont even know who I am anymore.....

I'd say you are what you do. In Christian tradition, that's how we are judged.

Thanks dlichterman :)

I am going to try to read my book again. Maybe I can focus on that.......

Hope is all there is.

'Twas in another lifetime, one of toil and blood
When blackness was a virtue and the road was full of mud
I came in from the wilderness, a creature void of form.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

And if I pass this way again, you can rest assured
I'll always do my best for her, on that I give my word
In a world of steel-eyed death, and men who are fighting to be warm.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

Not a word was spoke between us, there was little risk involved
Everything up to that point had been left unresolved.
Try imagining a place where it's always safe and warm.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

I was burned out from exhaustion, buried in the hail,
Poisoned in the bushes an' blown out on the trail,
Hunted like a crocodile, ravaged in the corn.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

Suddenly I turned around and she was standin' there
With silver bracelets on her wrists and flowers in her hair.
She walked up to me so gracefully and took my crown of thorns.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

Now there's a wall between us, somethin' there's been lost
I took too much for granted, got my signals crossed.
Just to think that it all began on a long-forgotten morn.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

Well, the deputy walks on hard nails and the preacher rides a mount
But nothing really matters much, it's doom alone that counts
And the one-eyed undertaker, he blows a futile horn.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

I've heard newborn babies wailin' like a mournin' dove
And old men with broken teeth stranded without love.
Do I understand your question, man, is it hopeless and forlorn?
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

In a little hilltop village, they gambled for my clothes
I bargained for salvation an' they gave me a lethal dose.
I offered up my innocence and got repaid with scorn.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

Well, I'm livin' in a foreign country but I'm bound to cross the line
Beauty walks a razor's edge, someday I'll make it mine.
If I could only turn back the clock to when God and her were born.
"Come in," she said,
"I'll give you shelter from the storm."

i know exactly how u feel missy. you dont have to feel like your the only one that feels this way. ive been there. even if sometimes it feels like im still there ive chosen to believe that im beyond it, and that helps me.

its not cool when anyone goes through that. these days alot of people around me seem to be there. be positive. you dont have to feel alone missy. i know it feels terrible when u feel like everyone depends on u. just try to remember how much you depend on the people you love. and do it. depend on them. let them keep u comapany; let others know how u feel, dont keep it to yourself, tell them that u need cheering up. even if some of those around you might disapoint, its better than leting ur emotions burn u from up under your skin. if anything just remember all your loyal fans here and how much we all obsess over and adore that u exist.

we all have our flaws, it does us no good to dwell on them or to ignore them. just keep your best at being your best.

for some reason i want to say. do you know how sometimes we feel we should do or say something? it comes up out of no where and it doesnt usually make sense. follow that. some call it following instints or being true to yourself, just do what u feel u should.

our past is a part of us, but we should carry some of it with us, not let it all stand infront of us to hold us back.

cat in a frog suit

don't focus on the bad stuff. focus on what is good. if you focus on what's bad, you'll only see the bad. just remember that what you have is something most others don't have.

i don't have kids or a job. i live with my mom still and still trying to find a job. i'd like to have a job and a family.

I don't get depressed that much.

depression comes and goes for me, sometimes I can't help but think of all the things I have lost, but I try to focus on what I have and what I want and work to make it happen so that I can just turn to the future to heal things.

Accept that it is ok to have feelings, even if they are ones that make you feel upset.
We are blessed with a large array of feelings and you need to have the sad ones (sometimes in abundance) to appreciate the happy emotions when they come back.
I understand how it is, I've had a terrible start to the year myself. One thing after another and when you think "hey, this can't get worse" it does. I'm trying to deal with it by accepting that it is OK to feel sad and focussing on doing things I wouldn't normally do in a bid to get myself out of the pit of despair.. it's working! (Slowly.) ;)
Best of luck Missy.

you people just need to get laid

If you are really that sad then may I be the first to suggest that you may be the one who needs to get laid or grow up past the age of 14?

yeah, I've been so sad.. coz my girlfren mad at me..

but, I'll never and ever given up my hope of being happy..

she'll regret.. ;)

Re: Have you ever just given up hope?
 

Do you need to see someone? Like a doctor. That's ok you know. It could help. Sometimes even with meds. things don't get better right away. For you, Missy, you are the one person I would say to stop investing so much of my hopes in someone else. Hang Tough

@randy- Nice Dylan..It's depressing as hell! :p

The lillies of the field do not toil, nor do they weep.

I get sad.
I visit the Winamp forums.
Problem solved!

Looking at my post count, I must be the saddest person this side of the galaxy.

Please pick up your phone.

edit: OK, thanks for picking up. All is well.

I picked up my phone.
I also looked under it.
What am I supposed to do now?:confused:

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Sorry. :hang: I always thought of it as a song of hope, but maybe I was being simplistic.

*crawls into dark corner*

Nope - Never...

Was in kids homes when I was a kid, in one - of the staff members near on kicked me to death. Just cause I lost a lousy pair of plastic sandles. First time I was in hospital and I sort of remember the doctor saying, he has internal bleeding - it's up to him, theres nothing I can do.

I'm still here...

That was the start of the fun but thats a long story cept to say abuse by others and a whole chunk of self abuse.

But - I'm still here

Now I just say - wonder what the next cartoon is gonna be like, pick me self up and on I go..

And a little message to that twat who did what they did when I was six?

Fuck you - I'm still here...

Thats kinda what I do - think of the worst ever possible moment in my life, which is probably that above and no way - I ain't giving up...

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*Finds randy-man and tickles him with tail*:D
Like all good poetry subject to some interpretation.
"She" could be death..."She" could be redemption...
"She" could be the fuckin' Avon Lady..:confused:

:p

I was calling her, and panicked when she didn't answer the first time. She screens her calls, but always answers mine. She picked up on the second one, though, and she's OK.

I go and see friends, or go wandering in the countryside or in the mountains.. with views and scenery like this http://images.google.co.uk/images?hl...kinder%20scout you spend so much time being amazed that you can forget being sad, for a time at least.

Now, now. Cloistering yourself and letting yourself wallow in a funk only makes it worse. Go out and enjoy yourself.

I hope you start feeling better Missy, I'll be praying for you. :)

Hey Missy!
Sometimes it's better to let go than to give up.
I did that too many times and it never got me anywhere,
other than the gutter of my life with a needle in my arm.
Try thinking about it like this:

Giving up implies a struggle-
Letting go implies a partnership.

Giving up dreads the future -
Letting go looks forward to the future.

Giving up lives out of fear -
Letting go lives out of grace and trust.

Giving up is a defeat -
Letting go is a victory.

Giving up is unwillingly yielding control to forces beyond yourself-
Letting go is choosing to yield to forces beyond yourself.

Letting go has kept me going for the last 10 years.
It surely wasn't the easier way, but it turned out to be the better way.
And that sure beats the alternative I was trying to achieve by giving up.
That along with a daily practice of the Serenity Prayer...

"God, grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change
Courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference"

Take care, and know you're always in my thoughts and my heart.

When I'm feeling down, I put on some music and sit with my eyes closed and chill.

Old Jethro Tull usually works for me.:)

That's a good approach, but it's not always so easy. She, just like I, can get into a place that's hard to get out of. That's when it takes a friend to come and help you do those things you find it impossible to do, such as everything in the world you normally can do for yourself.

These are the things I do for her, anything that's necessary, even if it's just listening to her and understanding.

Papadoc, I thank you for that!
Bet Missy does, too!:up:

You're welcome Widdykats :):up:
btw...have you seen this little video?
Funny!

I try my best to stay out of those deep moods, but sometimes you just can't. You have to go and enjoy your way out of it. With the help of your friends, of course.

Some days are very dark in my world. When I was alone it was easy to shut out the world and live by myself that darkness. I have used drugs and alcohol to escape from the meaningless of my life but eventually I realized I liked my life better when not seen through the haze. I have no horror stories to cite that would have caused these feelings, it is just who I am. For years, most of my childhood, I wondered why God put me on this earth to suffer through life, but eventually I realized I haven’t suffered at all. The only times in my life when I have been hungry, cold, or alone it has been my choice. I am the master of my life. Myself and no one else is responsible for who I am and where I am at. That is the source of my strength to get through the dark days. Some days it seems too dark to see even that, but eventually that light shines through also.
It’s easy to get caught up in the meaningless world that is western civilization. So much commercialism, so much emphasis on the acquisition of stuff. It is so easy to look around at all this so-called wealth and doubt our self worth, but none of this crap would matter without someone to give it value. What really seems to matter to me is if I am full, full of nutrition, full of warmth, full of energy. If I maintain a balance of nutrition, rest, and exercise it seems much easier to see through the artificial world of American society.
I have no prose, no quotes or jokes, no real words of wisdom to guide you through the dark, not even sure of my point to this post. I guess I’m basically trying to say you need to find the strength inside yourself to move through time. Once you have found that strength much of your life becomes easier. It won’t make the dark days disappear forever but might shine enough light on the path to find your way.

omfg that video was hilarious

Made me hungry.