love?
 

my girlfriend and i have been together for almost four years (this christmas is our 4th anniversary), i never had a girlfriend before her and she never had a boyfriend before me...

and although we are very happy together, and spend every waking (and sleeping moment) together, i sometimes wonder what it would be like to date someone else... i'm not saying that i want to leave my girlfriend, cuz i don't- i'm just wondering because i don't know anything else.

granted she is my best friend and we have a good time together, but i wonder how it would be, to be with someybody else. she is convinced that this is it for her, and that if i ever left her she would be devastated.

to tell you the truth my eyes do wander about and i am attracted to other girls... but what if i venture into other relationships i and lose the one i'm in currently- i don't ever want her out of my life- what should i do? how do i know, that this is IT? what if i do something and regret what i have? what if i try other relationships and find that what i had was perfect?

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-p.s. if anybody knows a link to where i can buy that blue Sony-Walkman alien thing as a stuffed animal, please let me know... she really loves it... thanks

I'm going to try to be plain.

If you have something good, stick with it.

Your eyes are always going to wander. You are always going to wonder. So is she. That's life. No matter who you are with, you are going to wonder if something else might be better.

There's nothing else I can really say. I think you should look at how many people are in horrible relationships, and then perhaps you'll realize just how great what you have is.

You can explore your possibilities if you want, but you will lose what you have now, and I think you'll regret it later if you do.

thanks curi0s,
you're a good friend, what i have now is perfect... i can't think of anyone else in the world who is more suited for me; sometimes it feels like we are the same person, we have the same likes, dislikes, hobbies, interests, etc. -even when i start becoming interested in other things, she always joins me, so we can share it together.

sometimes i just get nervous, that's all. especially when she mentions marriage, "forever", "rest-of-our-lives" maybe that's normal though (sometimes i just need a little reminding).

anyways... thanks

Well, umpf, she's a woman... Of course she'll say those things... :)

Seriously, stick with her... You're one of the lucky ones.

thanks nant`

i guess we are lucky... especially when there are so many people around us who can't find the right mate or who are currently in bad relationships...

Bop,

If you really love her stay with her or you'll regret it forever.

Aww, I know how you feel, Boplicity. I personally have a wonderful girlfriend as well, we're together for over two years now. Her and I are just made for each other, everything's just perfect, if you know what I mean. It just matches so very much. Yet sometimes, I would catch myself looking at and actually thinking about other girls and how it would be to be with a different girl. I think that's just normal to think like that. Sometimes, your inner bastard wants some "change" ... Yet don't mess it up, don't listen to your inner bastard wanting "change"! You can seriously screw up a lot, and believe me, it would never be the same again if you were with some other woman.

Listen to what your heart says.


Peace.

Bop, stay true to her, and you will feel far more fulfilled.

Bop if you think about it,
you answered your own question.
Reading the first post here impressed me with the fact
that you are in love with a wonderful girl
and she's in love with a wonderful man.
Sure there will be distractions and ups and downs (no pun intended)
but you've already laid a strong foundation together.
There's nothing wrong with looking,
if you didn't I'd think somethings wrong.
Just remember where your heart is.
I should be so lucky again one day.
:D

There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking. If you did not look, and feel yourself attracted sexually to other women I would worry about you. Fantasy in small doses can be a good thing.

If you have a good, solid relationship then keep it. The saying "The grass looks greener on the the other side" applies here. From what you say, it sounds like you have a solid foundation which is more than I can say for many relationships out there. Dont be afraid of marriage, cherish what you have.

Good Luck!

~ Missy