Help with the ladies...
 

So here's my dilema (spelling?) ...

i got this good friend of mine. Shes really cool and all that..but shes got a boyfriend. Anyways we've been hanging out more lately and been gettin closer...and well im starting to like her more than a friend. But i dont know what to do. She keeps sorta dropping hints that she might like me back but i dont know if im mis-interpreting them. Example - We were at a party and me and her were watching this movie, anyways everyone was starting to get loud, so she asked if i wanted to go watch the movie with her in the bedroom. I said sure.. i wanted to make a move on her then but she's got a boyfriend so i didnt even try, im to much of a gentleman (lol).

Anyways now she is ditching plans with her boyfriend to hang out with me more. We are starting to flirt more and stuff like that.

Anyways i dont know what to do, tomorrow we have plans to go to the fair that is in town together and i dont know if i should say something or not? What would all you guys sudgest, im really stuck on this one because i really like her, but i dont want to tell her and then have her not feel the same way about me, then have our friendship ruined. What does everyone here sudgest?

Any help would be greatly appreciated!

tell her how you feel......
ask her how she feels about you

she can only say naa.... thats not a good idea...
or yes lets go out...or something


what do you have to loose by asking?

Her boyfriend's police record would be helpful information before making a decision...

Good advice. :)

If you dont ask, you'll never know.

actually he is like way older than her , he has a temper..and gets mad at her when he see's me with her...im afraid..but she said she might break it off with him, so yeah,....well tomorrow when we go to the fair im guna see how it goes and then talk to her...probably..or mabey i will wait to see how things go ... i dunno...

if you want to find out what she thinks of you, but don't want to play your hand (tell her you're interested), here's how:

get her alone somewhere (ala watching a movie.) sit close, but don't make a move. talk if you want to. watch her body language.

it will be extremely easy to tell if she wants something.

a) if she makes physical contact excessively (ie, if you tell a joke and she laughs, she might touch your leg slightly, or she might brush up against your arm) basically, if she has no reason to be touching you and she does, she probably is trying to tell you something. (think of how often you make contact with your guy friends. you might give them five or something when you say hi, but that's about it. anything outside of that is probably flirting)

b) if she crosses her legs, see which way they're crossed. if they're crossed towards you, then it MIGHT be a hint (about 60/40 chance it is)

c) see if she's acting nicer than usual, (ie laughing at a corny joke, agreeing when you think she normally wouldn't, etc.)

d) ask her what movie to watch. INSIST she pick. use your discretion in analyzing her choice.

there's so much more, but most of it is instinct with me by now, so i couldn't really tell you how to do it. let me just say, that one time i brought a girl over to my place to hang out, and i was actually thinking about this stuff, and it was amazing to notice all the hints she was dropping. this was our first time hanging out outside of class, and we hooked up that night. and she slept over. so it DOES work. good luck.

btw, how old are you (this might all be moot, depending on your age)

[edit] girls generally know and accept that guys are slow when it comes to signals. so most of the time they lay it on thick to let the guy know they're interested. use this to your advantage.[/edit]

im 16...all those things make sense dude..thnks alot..

no prob. it's all still effective at 16... although i doubt you're going to get her to sleep over ;-)

mmmmmm sleep over!:)

You will find this dilemma you are presently in inconsequential two years hence.
I apologize in advance for being a bastard

Only RM could bring The Onion into this sort of topic :P

Just ask her outright Nofx, and lets hope you get somewhere you want to be :)

buy a t-shirt with her photo and name on it, she'll definetlly wanna sleep over after that :D

Nofx hon ~ some of the greatest relationships in the world have started out in just a friendship way.

I find that if I am friends with a guy first and we have common interests that the relationship works out better than if it is just a physical attraction at first.

You are only 16 and dont need to be rushing this. If it was ment to be then take it slow. Enjoy your friendship with her and allow it to grow naturally. It sounds like she is interested in you. Why not try just giving her a simple hug and see how she responds?

Do not feel guilty about her having a boyfriend. It is not an un gentleman thing you are doing. At this point you are still just friends with her.

I hope it all works out in your favor hon!

~ Missy

That is funny! :up:

Almost the same thing with me Nofx, but it was I who was dropping the hints....i told her how i felt, she only likes me as a friend...it hurt, but i knew, but the only reason i dropped hints was because she was dropping what I thought to be mounds of hints of her own....damn, maybe i was wrong.:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: