Monogamy or Polygamy?

[apollos]

What are your views on Monogamy and Polygamy?

Do Christians have the right idea about monogamy, would it complicate things less?

Do the Muslims have a point in saying that many lonely women on the streets of Western streets could become a respectable happier person finding safety and comfort in a polygamous marriage?

[eleet-2k2]

Well, if you're a male Hindu in the highest class, you can engage in massive kama sutra orgies. Otherwise, I believe monogomy is right due to my religion.

[UpperKEES]

Originally posted by Apollos
Do the Muslims have a point in saying that many lonely women on the streets of Western streets could become a respectable happier person finding safety and comfort in a polygamous marriage?

What kind of Muslims are telling you that? Most Turkish and Moroccan men here prefer to marry a girl from their own homeland and bring her over to Holland, instead of marrying a western girl with too much of her own will.

But to answer your question: monogamy is the only thing that will make you happy in the end (when you expect the same from your partner).

UK

[Germ]

Most men practice polygamy by nature. Especially when they're married.

[Joel]

I prefer monogamy. It's cool when you have one woman and is happy with you

[Widdykats]

Originally posted by Lobo Lunar
I prefer monogamy. It's cool when you have one woman and is happy with you

That's so nice!!!*kissy-kissy*
Serial Monogamist!

[Germ]

It does sound nice, but he's lying.

[Bilbo Baggins]

I think that its best to stick with one person, you can tend to find a lot more happiness in that way.

Besides, imagine having 5 wives. The nagging...

[Viper007Bond]

My agree Bilbo.

[Germ]

I think that everyone gets tired of one person eventually and loses interest in them romantically, regardless of what they want personally as a moral and upright human being. That's why lots of marriages end and lots of the ones that don't, they are unhappy. And the ones that do last, are because the couples are highly religious and god fearing, but they probably never have sex either

[Widdykats]

Originally posted by Germ
It does sound nice, but he's lying.

He may not be lying! He may feel that way now!
Having had more than a few serious relationships, I now feel
we do best in one-on-one relationships...one at a time!

[Raz]

Originally posted by Widdykats
Serial Monogamist!

And in your later post quite true, late at night just before bed i am a depressed, homicidal, human-race hating thing from hell and i want the earth nuked. But i wake up and everything is in a different perspective. Your state of mind always reflects your views on things. Of course there are people who live by their routine and they fall deeply in love with someone who is the same way and they never tire of them. And good for them.

[sammythemc]

I think naturally, men are polygamous by nature and women monogamous. However, isn't resisting ancient urges part of what separates us from the animals? I'd (at least try to) stay monogamous, but other people can do whatever the hell they want with themselves.

[caitcid]

Meh..it is natural to pick new mates....just look what some of the animals in the animal kingdom do.

Why is it wrong if it is just a natural instinct?

[Raz]

It is only wrong when someone gets hurt in the process. If all parties involved or affected in whatever is going on are aware and consenting then it is not anyones place to judge them.

[ryan]

monogamy for me.

[ShyShy]

Originally posted by Widdykats
feel we do best in one-on-one relationships...one at a time!

Although I would like to eventually find someone to be with for the rest of my life. Just got to find some poor sucker to put up with me until I nag him to death

[anubis2003]

I don't see any problems with polygamy. I doubt I'll ever practice it, but I still don't see any problems.

[apollos]

Originally posted by UpperKEES
What kind of Muslims are telling you that? Most Turkish and Moroccan men here prefer to marry a girl from their own homeland and bring her over to Holland, instead of marrying a western girl with too much of her own will.

But to answer your question: monogamy is the only thing that will make you happy in the end (when you expect the same from your partner).

UK

You misunderstood, they are using the argument that there is a load of unhappiness in the West, and many men go with loads of different women, they argue that if the man can treat all his wives with respect then it would be better if they married them too, protecting and loving her just as he loves his other wives.

Personally I don't see how one or the other are wrong.
People who say "I believe that monogamy is right and polygamy is not because that's what my culture / religion says" I ask this question, why does it make it wrong? What is your definition of wrong? Morals that have been passed down to you or can you actually justify why you feel polygamy is wrong other than using an argument from the bible.

For myself, I would rather be in a monogamous marriage, because I want to the find the one person I love and be with them for the rest of my life.

[UpperKEES]

Originally posted by Apollos
they are using the argument that there is a load of unhappiness in the West, and many men go with loads of different women, they argue that if the man can treat all his wives with respect then it would be better if they married them too, protecting and loving her just as he loves his other wives.

Wouldn't it be possible that these 'many lonely women on the Western streets ' are very happy being single at that moment? And would they/you really think these women would be happier sharing a man with 3 others? Why not take a western man with only a relatively small chance he will cheat on her? The men that go with 'loads of different women' are easy to identify and are always picked by the women that go with 'loads of different men'.

Now would it matter then whether religion is involved or not? Yes, because I think it is unfair that a Muslim woman can not have 4 men. So it's pure discrimination.

UK

[apollos]

I am saying that that is the argument that could be used for SOME unmarried, and / or unhappy people who fall in love with another guy. No discrimination.

20:23 <binary_hero> ENGLISH MOTHERFUCKER, DO YOU SPEAK IT?

[Widdykats]

Originally posted by Apollos
I am saying that that is the argument that could be used for SOME unmarried, and / or unhappy people who fall in love with another guy. No discrimination.

20:23 <binary_hero> ENGLISH MOTHERFUCKER, DO YOU SPEAK IT?

ENGLISH MOTHERFUCKER, DO YOU SPEAK IT?

Great Samuel L. Jackson imitation there Apollos!
hehehhehehe

[WomanOfHeart]

I think it's all a matter of preference. If a guy wants more than one wife, or a woman wants more than one husband, then more power to them. I think some people could be very happy with that kind of arrangement.
Personally, I prefer monogamy. I'm just a "one guy" kind of girl.

[apollos]

^^ agree 100%ly with that Do what you want and dont let society / narrow minded people tell you otherwise (well other than the restricting law)

Widdykats, I have to do it:

[Widdykats]

O.O *faints*
Thank mew, go over to the Women's (and gay guy) thread ) have a peek!

[apollos]

yay

good thread

THANK MEW 2!

[Widdykats]

Originally posted by Apollos
yay

good thread

THANK MEW 2!

Takes a slut to know a slut!

[apollos]

who me?

O:>

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[richardharris]

Man = Polygamy, woman = monogamy