my grandma

[deeder7001]

my grandma sucks because she tells me how to spend my money, when i should to things i don't want to do, when i should go to sleep, where i can go, she also gives orders like a damn drill sargent. she complains about my dad not sending me money when he has bills to pay, me not putting MY money in a bank account, me not shaving, me not getting enough exercise, me waking up at 10am and all sorts of other shit. she is hella pissing me off. i don't think i can take much more of her shit before i crack. i'm feeling like i'm about to beat the living shit out of something. then she says that she's trying to save money when they spend money on shit she doen't need, like the new fridge and the repairs on the computer she doesn't use or take care of properly. i'm seriously about to break. i recently had a migraine that lasted a week and another one is brewing already. i can feel it coming on.

[horse-fly]

Maybe you need some type of escape from her. You can also try to talk things out, but try to keep it somewhat civilized.

[deeder7001]

i need a job so i can move out of her house. every minute she's here i get more and more pissed. when she goes somewhere i like to relax because i can do what i want. when shes gone i usually just turn my music up as much as it goes. she doesn't take things seriously enough sometimes, especially when she knows i'm pissed.

[horse-fly]

Well, are there some type of other living accomdations available to you right now?

/Edit How old are you?

[deeder7001]

i could live in a box but that wouldn't help much. my parents and sisters are living in texas. i don't think i really want to live with anybody else. if i move out of my grandma's i want to have my own place. a studio or w/e would be good for me.

i'm currently 19. i'm looking for a job and currently have no money.

[horse-fly]

It comes down to whether you want to deal with your grandma and have financial security, or move out and pay for everything yourself (although you might get some help from your family. I don't know). It is up to you to decide what is best for you.

What is an w/e anyways?

[deeder7001]

w/e is short for whatever.

i want to move out and pay for everything myself. my dad said he'll help me out some when i get my own place. i'd like to pay for everything myself because it's just better that way.

[horse-fly]

If that is what you want to do, then cool. But first give a lot of thought into all your options to ensure that you are making the best one possible.

[deeder7001]

i'm going to go to a city college. i'm also hoping to get a part time job so i can get all the stuff i want. i need to upgrade my computer a little bit(HD, DVD, video).

[Mrs_Mia_Wallace]

I used to complain about my Grandmother sometimes as well. I don't live with her but she kept calling me and wanted to tell me how to live my life so it seemed.

A few weeks ago she had a heart attack and was one side paralyzed and couldn't speak for a few days. Now she's in rehab and slowly getting better and you cannot imagine how sorry I felt not only taht something like that happened but also because I was thinking bad about her previously. I realized that she was just a lonely old person that did the things she did so she has something to do in here life

As long as she let's you live in her house you should be glad she does that since she;'s not obliged to anything. If you can't stand living with her so badly, it's your responsibility to get out and search for a job yourself.

Mia

[siebe83]

Off course off course.
Mia, you are right.
But it just isn't a healthy relation to live with your grandma all the time (imho). She's related, so you feel the need to care or be nice or whatever, but at the same time she actually has nothing to say about your life. It's not of her bussiness. Parental care is different, since they are more directly responsible for you. Grandparents sometimes tend to blame parents for not raising their children well (as for deeder7001). My grandfather did that once, and I got pissed about that. But I cannot argue with him on the same level, cause, hey it's still my grandpa...

Do care for your grandparents, absolutely. Just forget your views on sensitive issues for a day and pay them a visit: be nice, they raised your mother/father. But I really wouldn't want to live with them.
Get out deeder7001, get independant!
After that, you may be able to care for your grandma (again).

[CaboWaboAddict]

It sound to me you NEED to get out on your own. Pay for everything yourself for a while. This implies a job. Buy a car if you need one. Pay ALL the bills YOURSELF.

Come back and read this thread in a year, and see if you don't call yourself a dumbass for not realizing how good you had it. Then go kiss grams and thank her.

Edit: You say she buys things she don't need - its her money, don't sweat it unless she is getting scammed.

[deeder7001]

i know i need to get my own place but my grandma won't take me to look at possible job opportunities accross town or a 45 minute drive from town.

[CaboWaboAddict]

Sit down and have a heart to heart. Tell her that you really need your own space, and the only way you can stop mooching off her is to get a job. If that don't convice her then cut grass and buy a bike to go work. Life is too short to be unhappy when your young.

[deeder7001]

i have a bike but i need to adjust the derailers and check the brakes because it takes a while to slow down for some reason. it's a new bike too.

[CaboWaboAddict]

*** missed the point ***

[deeder7001]

i forgot i was going to go to the mall and submit some apps to a few places.

[siebe83]

[Bilbo Baggins]

Put her in a home for the elderly.

[deeder7001]

i would but she's only about 60 years old. and she's in fairly good health.

[horse-fly]

Warning!
Nothing in this post is meant to be taken seriously. I accept no responsibility for those who do not read the obvious warning sign.

Originally posted by deeder7001
and she's in fairly good health.

You do know how to "fix" that, right?

[deeder7001]

Originally posted by horse-fly
Warning!
Nothing in this post is meant to be taken seriously. I accept no responsibility for those who do not read the obvious warning sign. You do know how to "fix" that, right?

yea but i'm to lazy to do anything about it.

[CaboWaboAddict]

So do ya bitch to hear yourself bitch, or so we can hear ya bitch?

[deeder7001]

this is the bitchlist isn't it? correct me if i'm wrong about that.

[CaboWaboAddict]

Yeah it is. My point is, generally people bitch here about something they have little or no control over.

You have bitched about living with grandma, not having a job, not having a car, and having headaches. You still live with grams, you won't fix your bike for transportation, you won't go look for a job, you haven't gone to the doctor about a 2 week old headache...

Blowing off steam helps a little for a short while, hence the bitchlist. But, doing something about your situation brings more relief, of the lingering kind.

BTW Mas Tequila!

[deeder7001]

i never said i didn't have a car. i have one but it needs to get fixed, tags and insureance. my bike works i just need to adjust the derailer so it will work better because it feels like it skips or something like that. i've applied to like 10 places and none called back so far. i don't like living with grandma but i don't have a choice as i don't yet have a job and my parents being in texas. i have control over the job thing somewhat but i have no control over the managers at the places i apply to. i don't control my grandma because well it's not cool to try anything like that with her.

[CaboWaboAddict]

OK, sorry man. It just hit a nerve. I had a couple friends that started out that way. Their still living in their parents home (basement in one case) 30 years later. Just don't want to be aware of that happening again.

[deeder7001]

in their parents' basement? 30 year? that won't happen to me. i hope.

[CaboWaboAddict]

Don't let it. I wouldn't hang with these two individuals if my life depended on it now.

[Zana]

maybe you should take a walk....

a really long one....

to clear your mind and wind down...

to think things out...

and maybe when you get home you'll have a better idea of where to start solving your problems....

but never give up, no matter what.

[deeder7001]

i just came back from a LAN party earlier today. but that sounds like a good idea too. i haven't had a headache for a couple of days. i probably should have thought about it when i was at the LAN yesterday but i didn't think about it until now.

[xzxzzx]

*doesn't bother to read much of the thread*

*queue scary-stalker-voice*
Just accidentally add some antifreeze to her morning coffee. No one will suspect you, man. They won't even know. Bury the body in the backyard, and you'll be home-free.

[Raz]

Go for a really long walk.

Stay there.

[mark]

Go for a really long walk.

Take her with you.

Let her stay there.

[Bilbo Baggins]

Or just relax in the fact that she will die soon, and you will have a juicy inheritance to squander.

[siebe83]

damn...