age differences - Page 2

Curi0us_George · 11th August 2002, 20:18

12: 11 -> 13
13: 12 -> 14
14: 13 -> 16
15: 14 -> 18
16: 14 -> 19
17: 14 -> 20
18: 15+
19: 16+
20: 17+
21: 18+

edit: You know, we could just post either the min age, and the max could be infered.

edit 2: I really don't think any place on Earth has laws about "dating ages". You can't draw a legal line between dating and hanging out.

insomniac · 11th August 2002, 20:32

Birmingham, Alabama

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19 -- 15
20 -- 16
21 -- 17

Trigear · 12th August 2002, 04:04

Quote:

Originally posted by Curi0us_George
I really don't think any place on Earth has laws about "dating ages". You can't draw a legal line between dating and hanging out.

very true, but where is dating without the potential for *some* kind of physical gratification, whether it be simple kissing or full out phugging? (i know, some people DO date without ANY benefits, but i simply cannot)

now take that into consideration and look at someone dating someone much too young for him- or herself. it's bad.

now take that into consideration and look at someone dating someone who may or may not be too young for him- or herself, depending on the location and custom. complications arise when the laws prevent something that someone else might find completely understandable or acceptable.

and that's where i find myself. i've got no problems dating this girl even though i can't legally have sex with her because i like her AND i'm NOT out for sex AND i know that even though our age difference might not be common here, it's common in many other places and legal in several states.

no one else can ever TRULY know my intentions, however. they can only choose to believe what i say or not. and because of that, i'm always suspect.

meh, it's all good. i get frowns from some friends, i get encouragement from others, and i do all i can to have a serious relationship without going to prison. what more can one person do?

Curi0us_George · 12th August 2002, 06:01

Ok. My point was that most of the info that people have posted here is incorrect. A lot of people are posting "ages of consent" from specific areas, which has nothing, legally, to do with dating. No state, in the US at least, has laws stating legal "dating" ages.

My personal moral compass gives me a shorter range of ages than the law in Tennessee. The list of ages that I posted is even more flexible than what I would accept for myself.

Trigear · 12th August 2002, 06:11

point taken. i DID ask for personal dating ages though... oh well

lemon_chicken · 12th August 2002, 14:41

its joshy from adelaide australia.
here are my ages for guys dating girls, no-one seems to have said it yet but around here it is a tad more common for the girl of a couple to be younger than older, however i also feel that much older guys in a relationship are seen as 'dirty predators' wheras girls dating much younger guys is not frowned apon [however less frequent].

12 >12
13 >13
14 >13
15 >14
16 >14
17 >15
18 >16
19 >16
20 >17
21 >18

my veiw might not allow for much age variation, i think in *most* situations you should be hanging out with people around your age anyway so it should be natural to go out with someone close to that age, especially the younger you are. i still cop the odd mean joke though and im 17 and my gf's 15½ so some people are just harsh

Curi0us_George · 12th August 2002, 15:42

Quote:

Originally posted by triGEAR
point taken. i DID ask for personal dating ages though... oh well

Nu-uh. You asked for what should be allowed

I'm 20 now. I think that it's perfectly acceptable for someone my age to date a 17 year old. I wouldn't date anyone younger than 18, though.

Trigear · 12th August 2002, 17:33

Quote:

Originally posted by Curi0us_George
Nu-uh. You asked for what should be allowed

hmmm, is that so?

Quote:

followed by the oldest (and youngest) person you think a person of the following ages should be allowed to date.

so we're both right, in a way.

[edit] that other post should have read "i did ask for personal OPINIONS ON dating ages"... my bad [/edit]

Trigear · 13th August 2002, 03:43

what do you folks think about old (senior) people dating the younger ones?

jyvasaa · 13th August 2002, 03:55

it seems awkward, but i bet it's been/being/will be done

new jersey, usa

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i think things like this are best based on maturity than age

Trigear · 13th August 2002, 03:59

Quote:

Originally posted by ¡Æ!
i think things like this are best based on maturity than age

that's a cop-out statement. by your reasoning, my 42 year old boss could date the 12 year old he has a crush on, if he deems her mature enough...

insomniac · 13th August 2002, 08:08

Quote:

Originally posted by triGEAR

that's a cop-out statement. by your reasoning, my 42 year old boss could date the 12 year old he has a crush on, if he deems her mature enough...

That`s really messed up, but hell, it`s legal. Not right, but legal.

Lapikas · 13th August 2002, 09:19

Ages should be considered individually on each relationships. And as someone mentioned before: the older you get, the less ages matter. Atleast when both are over 18 (atleast in Finland that's the age you are legally "full aged"). Culture and religions affects these things very much..

Curi0us_George · 13th August 2002, 15:19

Quote:

Originally posted by Insomniac7891
That`s really messed up, but hell, it`s legal. Not right, but legal.

Where is that legal? Please tell me that your entire sentence was typo, so I can sleep tonight.

Quote:

Originally posted by Lapikas
Ages should be considered individually on each relationships. And as someone mentioned before: the older you get, the less ages matter. Atleast when both are over 18 (atleast in Finland that's the age you are legally "full aged"). Culture and religions affects these things very much..

Politicians have to set specific laws. Vague laws are useless, injust, and will be thrown out, eventually.

Trigear · 13th August 2002, 16:12

very true, but i think the "half your age plus x" rule should be implemented

lemon_chicken · 14th August 2002, 04:40

when there is a really big age difference the motive for the relationship becomes questionable, and you wonder if maybe they cant get anyone their age, and if so why?
of course im not tryna say that similar age relationships are always that healthy either....

Trigear · 14th August 2002, 05:24

ok now that i've got the general answers out of the way,

what do you all think of 15 and 20?

Sandman2012 · 14th August 2002, 06:19

Quote:

Originally posted by triGEAR
ok now that i've got the general answers out of the way,

what do you all think of 15 and 20?

I think triGEAR's met someone...someone young!

Trigear · 14th August 2002, 07:15

what gave that away sandman?

SpazX · 14th August 2002, 18:15

um, I'd say anyone up to 3 years younger, 5 older, as long as it works right, I mean I dated a 13 year old when I was 16, well I still am 16, but that was a while ago, and at first it was ok then later on the immaturity came out, so I guess it all has to do with their mind more than age, I date someone my own age now, and it fits, so yeah.

BabyElle · 14th August 2002, 22:14

Quote:

Originally posted by Bilbo Baggins
That is a very interesting site trigear. according to the age of consent table, you can have heterosexual sex in New Mexico at the age of 17, but can have homosexual sex at the age of 13!

Perhaps the officials in New Mexico belive that you should first get to know yourself, by practicing on people that you would be more familliar with, then try on something else.

Sandman2012 · 15th August 2002, 01:01

Quote:

Originally posted by SpazX
um, I'd say anyone up to 3 years younger, 5 older...

Do you realize there's an inherent contradiction here, right?

Trigear · 15th August 2002, 01:35

i noticed, but didn't want to say anything.

dating comes with a full set of double standards.

Sandman2012 · 15th August 2002, 02:07

Quote:

Originally posted by triGEAR
i noticed, but didn't want to say anything.

dating comes with a full set of double standards.

It's not just a double standard. By this rule, if person x and person y are 4 years different in age the younger one could date the older one, but the older one could not date the younger one. Setting an age limit in one direction limits the other direction to that age limit as well.

Trigear · 15th August 2002, 02:56

well aware of that. you're absolutely right. my mistake :P

lemon_chicken · 15th August 2002, 14:10

Quote:

Originally posted by triGEAR
ok now that i've got the general answers out of the way,

what do you all think of 15 and 20?

hmmm. to be honest in my books that is a bit old, she's only ¾ your age. i know you only want my opinion, but if you wanted my permission youd have to present a good case.

lemon_chicken · 15th August 2002, 14:21

Quote:

Originally posted by Sandman2012

It's not just a double standard. By this rule, if person x and person y are 4 years different in age the younger one could date the older one, but the older one could not date the younger one. Setting an age limit in one direction limits the other direction to that age limit as well.

unless you are referring to a particular gender's age limits.

Trigear · 15th August 2002, 16:25

yes, and yes.

(good case reserved for those who's opinions directly affect the situation, aka her parents... sorry. but you make a good point.)

Lapikas · 16th August 2002, 06:56

15 & 20... hmm.. child & adult.. You asked my opinion..

I had "something" with 13 or 14 years "child". Off course we were drunk, but I still felt bad. I was 21 for christ sake!! I'm glad that it's forgotten now..

Aquila Blue · 16th August 2002, 15:09

I'd have to agree with lemon_chicken on the 15 & 20 year old thing. I think at these ages, the gap is a bit too much, ESPECIALLY if her parents don't approve (that will only add problems) I think that if you two really like each other, it might be advantagous to wait a few years, say until 18 and 23, when that gap would be totally acceptable to all parties involved.

Curi0us_George · 16th August 2002, 21:05

Quite honestly, I think that 15 and 20 is a bit disturbing. But, I guess as long as her parents don't mind, and you aren't breaking any laws, it's not really my business. Don't plan on settling down with her any time soon, though. She's still got a lot of growing to do, even if neither of you think so.

c2R · 16th August 2002, 21:46

Quote:

Originally posted by Lapikas
Ages should be considered individually on each relationships. And as someone mentioned before: the older you get, the less ages matter. Atleast when both are over 18 (atleast in Finland that's the age you are legally "full aged"). Culture and religions affects these things very much..

Slightly off topic, but if you are legally fully aged in Finland upon reaching 18, why are you still prohibited from purchasing or possessing alcohols with a strength of more than 22% unless you're over 20 years old?

whiteflip · 16th August 2002, 22:01

at least you get to purchase alcohol over there. we dont get a teir system. its 21 or nothing. if i could purchase something under 10% i would be happy.

Curi0us_George · 16th August 2002, 22:04

Quote:

Originally posted by c2R
Slightly off topic, but if you are legally fully aged in Finland upon reaching 18, why are you still prohibited from purchasing or possessing alcohols with a strength of more than 22% unless you're over 20 years old?

You could ask the same thing in the US. N one seems to know.

c2R · 16th August 2002, 22:43

Quote:

Originally posted by whiteflip
at least you get to purchase alcohol over there. we dont get a teir system. its 21 or nothing. if i could purchase something under 10% i would be happy.

I mean it doesn't bother me really as I'm old enough to drink wherever (well, except Saudi Arabia, of course

) - just something I wondered. A two tier system such as the Finns have is probably better - like in Germany there is a 16/18 split... in the UK (where, for the most part I grew up) the legal drinking age (for all alcohols) is 18, but it's not really strictly enforced, so generally kids drink from about 16 upwards...

whiteflip · 17th August 2002, 01:05

in the US kids generally drink from High school freshmen on up (14+) Sometimes it starts in eigth grade.

Trigear · 17th August 2002, 01:13

depends who you know and where you're at. i started drinking at 18...

Curi0us_George · 17th August 2002, 01:27

Quote:

Originally posted by whiteflip
in the US kids generally drink from High school freshmen on up (14+) Sometimes it starts in eigth grade.

People who get caught selling or giving alcohol to minors can get into deep trouble with the law, too.

Trigear · 17th August 2002, 05:28

and well they should be. underage drinking is very dangerous and stupid.

(...the 20 year old said while sipping a cold beer)

I am Jesus · 17th August 2002, 08:00

Anaheim, California

12 ->12
13 ->13
14 ->14 15
15 ->15 16
16 ->16 17
17 ->17 16
18 ->18
19 ->19
20 ->20 21
21 ->21 22

Something like that, I don't know

11th August 2002, 20:18	#41
Curi0us_George Forum King Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Oxford, MS Posts: -1 Posts: 5,179	12: 11 -> 13 13: 12 -> 14 14: 13 -> 16 15: 14 -> 18 16: 14 -> 19 17: 14 -> 20 18: 15+ 19: 16+ 20: 17+ 21: 18+ edit: You know, we could just post either the min age, and the max could be infered. edit 2: I really don't think any place on Earth has laws about "dating ages". You can't draw a legal line between dating and hanging out. For the freedom to express myself in my own way without fear of being censored or banned. 47 65 6C 61 65 64 2E 63 6F 6D 00 Last edited by Curi0us_George; 11th August 2002 at 20:43.

12th August 2002, 06:01	#44
Curi0us_George Forum King Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Oxford, MS Posts: -1 Posts: 5,179	Ok. My point was that most of the info that people have posted here is incorrect. A lot of people are posting "ages of consent" from specific areas, which has nothing, legally, to do with dating. No state, in the US at least, has laws stating legal "dating" ages. My personal moral compass gives me a shorter range of ages than the law in Tennessee. The list of ages that I posted is even more flexible than what I would accept for myself. For the freedom to express myself in my own way without fear of being censored or banned. 47 65 6C 61 65 64 2E 63 6F 6D 00

12th August 2002, 14:41	#46
lemon_chicken Major Dude Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: the land of the collapsable clothesline Posts: 627	its joshy from adelaide australia. here are my ages for guys dating girls, no-one seems to have said it yet but around here it is a tad more common for the girl of a couple to be younger than older, however i also feel that much older guys in a relationship are seen as 'dirty predators' wheras girls dating much younger guys is not frowned apon [however less frequent]. 12 >12 13 >13 14 >13 15 >14 16 >14 17 >15 18 >16 19 >16 20 >17 21 >18 my veiw might not allow for much age variation, i think in most situations you should be hanging out with people around your age anyway so it should be natural to go out with someone close to that age, especially the younger you are. i still cop the odd mean joke though and im 17 and my gf's 15½ so some people are just harsh \|arbitary focus\| it's never as flaccid as it is when plucked \| 01110011 01100101 01111000 \|

13th August 2002, 03:55	#50
jyvasaa Major Dude Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: suomi Posts: 967	weird... it seems awkward, but i bet it's been/being/will be done new jersey, usa 12 * * 13 * * 14 * * 15 * * 16 * * 17 * * 18 * * 19 * * 20 * * 21 * * i think things like this are best based on maturity than age jyvasaa

13th August 2002, 09:19	#53
Lapikas Major Dude Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: the other side.. Posts: 670	Ages should be considered individually on each relationships. And as someone mentioned before: the older you get, the less ages matter. Atleast when both are over 18 (atleast in Finland that's the age you are legally "full aged"). Culture and religions affects these things very much.. The requested SIG could not be retrieved

11th August 2002, 20:32	#42
insomniac Major Dude Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 58,409,042 Posts: 1,614	Birmingham, Alabama 12 13 11 13 15 12 14 18 12 15 19 13 16 20 14 17 21 14 18 -- 14 19 -- 15 20 -- 16 21 -- 17

12th August 2002, 06:11	#45
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	point taken. i DID ask for personal dating ages though... oh well

13th August 2002, 03:43	#49
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	what do you folks think about old (senior) people dating the younger ones?

13th August 2002, 16:12	#55
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	very true, but i think the "half your age plus x" rule should be implemented

14th August 2002, 04:40	#56
lemon_chicken Major Dude Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: the land of the collapsable clothesline Posts: 627	when there is a really big age difference the motive for the relationship becomes questionable, and you wonder if maybe they cant get anyone their age, and if so why? of course im not tryna say that similar age relationships are always that healthy either.... \|arbitary focus\| it's never as flaccid as it is when plucked \| 01110011 01100101 01111000 \|

14th August 2002, 05:24	#57
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	ok now that i've got the general answers out of the way, what do you all think of 15 and 20?

14th August 2002, 07:15	#59
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	what gave that away sandman?

14th August 2002, 18:15	#60
SpazX Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 12	um, I'd say anyone up to 3 years younger, 5 older, as long as it works right, I mean I dated a 13 year old when I was 16, well I still am 16, but that was a while ago, and at first it was ok then later on the immaturity came out, so I guess it all has to do with their mind more than age, I date someone my own age now, and it fits, so yeah.

15th August 2002, 01:35	#63
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	i noticed, but didn't want to say anything. dating comes with a full set of double standards.

15th August 2002, 02:56	#65
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	well aware of that. you're absolutely right. my mistake :P

15th August 2002, 16:25	#68
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	yes, and yes. (good case reserved for those who's opinions directly affect the situation, aka her parents... sorry. but you make a good point.)

16th August 2002, 06:56	#69
Lapikas Major Dude Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: the other side.. Posts: 670	15 & 20... hmm.. child & adult.. You asked my opinion.. I had "something" with 13 or 14 years "child". Off course we were drunk, but I still felt bad. I was 21 for christ sake!! I'm glad that it's forgotten now.. The requested SIG could not be retrieved

16th August 2002, 15:09	#70
Aquila Blue Major Dude Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: The Digital World Posts: 908	I'd have to agree with lemon_chicken on the 15 & 20 year old thing. I think at these ages, the gap is a bit too much, ESPECIALLY if her parents don't approve (that will only add problems) I think that if you two really like each other, it might be advantagous to wait a few years, say until 18 and 23, when that gap would be totally acceptable to all parties involved.

16th August 2002, 21:05	#71
Curi0us_George Forum King Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Oxford, MS Posts: -1 Posts: 5,179	Quite honestly, I think that 15 and 20 is a bit disturbing. But, I guess as long as her parents don't mind, and you aren't breaking any laws, it's not really my business. Don't plan on settling down with her any time soon, though. She's still got a lot of growing to do, even if neither of you think so. For the freedom to express myself in my own way without fear of being censored or banned. 47 65 6C 61 65 64 2E 63 6F 6D 00

16th August 2002, 22:01	#73
whiteflip Post Master General (Forum King) Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Seattle, Now Las Vegas Posts: 6,032	at least you get to purchase alcohol over there. we dont get a teir system. its 21 or nothing. if i could purchase something under 10% i would be happy. I'm Back?

17th August 2002, 01:05	#76
whiteflip Post Master General (Forum King) Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Seattle, Now Las Vegas Posts: 6,032	in the US kids generally drink from High school freshmen on up (14+) Sometimes it starts in eigth grade. I'm Back?

17th August 2002, 01:13	#77
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	depends who you know and where you're at. i started drinking at 18...

17th August 2002, 05:28	#79
Trigear bear! Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 3,426	and well they should be. underage drinking is very dangerous and stupid. (...the 20 year old said while sipping a cold beer)

17th August 2002, 08:00	#80
I am Jesus Major Dude Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Your mom Posts: 1,555	Anaheim, California 12 ->12 13 ->13 14 ->14 15 15 ->15 16 16 ->16 17 17 ->17 16 18 ->18 19 ->19 20 ->20 21 21 ->21 22 Something like that, I don't know

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