Old 5th March 2008, 07:24   #1
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Out of control

I honestly don't know what's going on any more. For the last month I've been getting quite pissed off at just about anything. Even things I like to do. I don't know what it is that is pissing me off like this either.

About 30 minutes ago I almost broke my wireless 360 controller. And that is something I like to have for playing Halo 3 on Live.

After I get pissed I go into a blind rage if pushed further. It takes hours for me to calm down. I don't like being angry like this. I fear I'll go into a blind rage at work and do something stupid. I don't want that to happen.


Any advice will be appreciated.

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Old 5th March 2008, 07:27   #2
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Is it an aggregate of small annoyances that build to the anger?
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Old 5th March 2008, 07:30   #3
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Old 5th March 2008, 08:15   #4
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Is it an aggregate of small annoyances that build to the anger?
It all the small things, and all the big things. Every time I sign in at work I'm ticked at something instantly.

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Old 5th March 2008, 10:29   #5
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Try getting a punchbag or exercising in general. They say thats a good stress reliever. Atleast you might be too tired to break anything when you do get angry.
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Old 5th March 2008, 14:07   #7
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Deeder, often times it's not what happens to us that causes problems, but how we react to it. You need to do an honest assessment of yourself and ask yourself why you're letting things get to you. You sound just like my brother. He got a punching bag and took up karate. It helped some, but I think he's slowly realized he needed to change his attitude and not let other people or situations rile him.

Hopefully, we won't see you doing this:

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Old 5th March 2008, 17:30   #10
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i feel like that sometimes, and used to feel like that quite alot. i think that for somethings it can be rather destructive to think that there is some simple solution or spell that can take something bad away. simple solutions are often the principle reason things can get out of control; because people are content to consider patched issues solved. ive found that when it comes to feeling that way its important to realize that the means to getting to where you dont feel like that as much, is more like laying out a path pebble by pebble rather than rolling out a rug over the bumpy ground. its important to face it, go through it, and just not get angry. and just that. everytime you go off and get angry about something its just that much easier to get angry the next time.

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Razzino beat me to it. Keep in mind what you yourself can and can not change. You can't easily change the fact that shit will be thrown at you. There are ways to prevent it, but some always gets through. The key is working on your reaction. Take the lemons life throws at you and make lemonade (this is a cognitive/behavioral approach to your situation).

I have been in situations like this and found that my ways of solving problems didn't work for me, because, what I thought the general public says makes me happy, didn't make me happy. There was an incongruence between the life I was living and the life that could be more fitting for me. What I was told was good might not have been good for me personally. Once I figured out for myself what was better for me, I was happier with my own decisions and with my life in general. What "conditions of worth" are you putting on yourself? Are you really a bad person for feeling/acting the way you do? Are you really a bad person for not being what the conditions say you should be?(this is a Rogerian approach to your situation).

What have you tried so far? Is this working for you? What works and what doesn't? It is clear that you want change, but do you have the necessary motivation/integrity to get off your ass and make your life better? (This is the Reality Therapy/Dr. Phil approach to your situation.)

Is there something bad tucked away in your mind from your past that recent situations have unconsciously triggered? Something deep like childhood rejection by peers or condescending words from people that might be above you or something else that really used to push your buttons? If so you should come to terms with not only the current problems and process through them, but more importantly try to find a resolution to the original problem that has resurfaced. What defense mechanisms have you used to keep you from feeling bad? Are they healthy or unhealthy? What can you do to ensure your defense mechanisms are healthy? (This is a Freudian response to your situation)

Keep in mind these are grossly shortened, but sometimes they give a little insight on how to solve problems. If you really need some help, give me a PM and I might be able to help you process what's going on.

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Old 6th March 2008, 05:30   #14
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Being that you're a Jesus freak, seems you've been saved and all but have you been sanctified??.. If not... there within lies your problem with carnality. Ask your pastor ... He can advise you more than anyone else can.
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Being that you're a Jesus freak, seems you've been saved and all...
I haven't felt like a Jesus freak for quite some time now. I haven't even been to a Sunday service for a couple of months now.


Ask your pastor ... He can advise you more than anyone else can.

That's why I haven't been to church in a while. I like the guy but his sermons always feel empty or sugar coated.




Maybe I just need to get away for a few days or something.

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Get away to where? ... what's that gonna do? ... won't you be gettin pissed off there too??
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On that note, a personal retreat can be very healing.

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On that note, a personal retreat can be very healing.
True. If you're stressed. But he's blind rage pissed, not stressed.
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Get away to where? ... what's that gonna do? ... won't you be gettin pissed off there too??
Just away. I haven't had a proper week off in nearly 2 years.

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Always had work to do even if I had requested days off.

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DUDE .... You just now changed your avatar! ... now if you could just get that CT changed!
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I'm going to keep the CT. I wish I could get a better avatar size though.

I just played some Halo 3(without getting mad). Rocket Race is pretty fun.

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There's another type of therapy that can be quite entertaining.

"I'm too busy to do anything about my anger/frustration now; I'll get back to it on Sunday at 7:00 p.m. when I have the free time to handle it. So on Sundays at 7 p.m., I'll be pissed about it because right now I have other very important things to handle."

Of course, by the time Sunday at 7 rolls around, you likely can look back and realize you're already over it. Even if you're not already over it by then, maybe it is a good time to find a healthy solution, so that it is less distracting when you're doing other important things.

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Old 8th March 2008, 07:09   #25
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Since I created this thread I seem to have calmed down quite a bit. I'm going to try attending a different church Sunday.

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Old 24th April 2008, 04:46   #26
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Since the last post, I've only been to a Sunday service one time. I did start going to a college group Monday nights. I've been there before and know people there. Fun group.

I am going to try to go to church this Sunday though. Really this time. Hopefully...

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You seem as though you don't like your church that much, so why do you go there? Personally, I believe that the churches have become corrupted, so I do my own Bible studies instead of believing everything a pastor says.

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I think like anything else it all has to do with where you go. Many churches are quite corrupted. Others aren't so bad. I guess the real question is, does the church you visit help the people who attend in a positive way or serve a cause worthy of investing your time/money in?

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I love the church I'm at. I just haven't been able to connect with any of the messages the pastor speaks for a while. That's partly why I haven't been attending for a while. I like the worship part of the service the best. It speaks to me more than the pastor sometimes does.

From around June '06 until about December '07 I helped in the children's ministry every Sunday. In doing so, I didn't attend the main service. From about March '05 until June '06 I didn't miss a single Sunday service. Then I also helped out in the Jr High Sunday nights From October '04 until December '06. Again I never missed a Sunday there either.

And yes, the church does help the people in a positive way. There are events throughout the year that go to the more "needy" part of town and hand out the things needed by the people in that part(diapers, jackets, backpacks, etc..).

I guess I just kind of burnt out from all that.

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I'm pretty sure going to work today is a bad idea. Not in the greatest of moods today.

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Taking a day off in a "retreat" as mentioned earlier can be quite healing, but it can also leave you a time of inactivity where it just stays at the focal part of your attention span, whereas work might be a good distraction. I guess it's one or the other based on what kind of personality you have.

The same goes with going to work - will the mood make you a bad employee to the point where you predict doing something you'll regret, or will work be therapy by keeping your mind off the bad stuff while you cool down?

Why are you in such a bad mood?

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usually all this blinding rage we get are linked to problems in the childhood.i'd go to a therapist,in fact i had a problem like yours some years ago,went to a therapist and he helped me get things into perspective.
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The same goes with going to work - will the mood make you a bad employee to the point where you predict doing something you'll regret, or will work be therapy by keeping your mind off the bad stuff while you cool down?

Why are you in such a bad mood?
I don't know why I'm pissed off. All that was even remotely upsetting was my package wasn't delivered(nobody answered the door). I even heard the knock on the door and dismissed it. I don't know why I dismissed it but I did.

Usually work puts a lot of stress on me. And I'm already in a bad mood. If nobody bothers me, I'll be fine. But then if I get annoyed at something, I'll be very short with everybody.

I just about broke the closet doors and broke an old CD holder thing(made of balsa wood stuff). It wasn't in use. But it seems every time I get mad, I get worse than before.

That's why I don't want to go.

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It seems that all the hard work helped calm me down. When I first clocked in, I wasn't very happy with anything that was going on. Then a little before I took my break one of the girls somehow made me smile. I was still a little grumpy but feeling a lot better. When it came time to start the "hard work"(cleaning) I was feeling like I usually do.

Now I'm just tired. But I feel good.

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I haven't felt like a Jesus freak for quite some time now. I haven't even been to a Sunday service for a couple of months now.


Ask your pastor ... He can advise you more than anyone else can.

That's why I haven't been to church in a while. I like the guy but his sermons always feel empty or sugar coated.




Maybe I just need to get away for a few days or something.
Sounds like you need a new church most likely. A lot of them are like that. A church that is all sugar coated happy feel good stuff often isn't the most beneficial for people who want to change their lives.

Do you have powerful moods other than just the angry mood? Depressed? Happy? If this is the case...do they change in any sort of pattern/frequency? Might be every 2 weeks...or sometimes every day. Or perhaps randomly throughout a day?

Feel free to PM me about this...I have experience dealing w/ moods & such. It's nothing to be ashamed of. And by experience dealing w/...I mean in my personal life.

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True but if it's become enough of an issue to where someone's worried they may totally lose it & do stuff that will have major consequences like losing a job, etc...well that can't just be downplayed as nothing to worry about.

I have a hunch there may be another..more significant underlying cause that ought to be addressed (not knowing many specifics).

deeder: How have you been sleeping lately? Just wondering. Also still would like to know about earlier questions, as they may tell a lot about possible causes that ought to be addressed.

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Do you have powerful moods other than just the angry mood? Depressed? Happy? If this is the case...do they change in any sort of pattern/frequency? Might be every 2 weeks...or sometimes every day. Or perhaps randomly throughout a day?
Mostly it's just kind of random. Some days I'll be just fine and other days I'll be pissed at the first thing I don't like. Usually it's something small that sets me off. As far as I know, the angry mood is the one that is most powerful. It's not hard to bring me out of it though. Just have to make me smile at something.

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