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Old 15th March 2005, 02:20   #1
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I told my girlfriend I wouldn't love her if she was fat.

Well, my girlfriend was whining about how she felt bloated and fat, and I was said "your not fat" and she was like, "would you love me if I got fat?" and I told her no.

she got this look, and I explained that I'd still love her if she got fat, but I most likely wouldn't marry her or let her have any of my children if she got fat because I want my children to have a healthy mother who cares for her body.

I explained to her, however, that I would help her not get fat. I'd exercise with her and help her go on a diet if she started to get fat, just as I would hope she would if I got fat, because I woudl hope she would want me to be healthy also.

So...am I a jerk for only wanting a slim (not skinny) woman or what?
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Old 15th March 2005, 02:26   #2
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Technically, you're a jerk.
The Female-kind doesn't appreciate truth for truths sake.


It's a trick question.
"would you love me if I got fat?" literally means:
"Do you like me just because you think I'm physically attractive?"


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Old 15th March 2005, 02:31   #3
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But It's true. If I got a GF, I wouldn't love her if she got fat.

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Old 15th March 2005, 02:32   #4
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I feel the same way dlink. Just don't let them know that.

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Old 15th March 2005, 02:34   #5
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Yeah, You don't say it to her. Just reinforce that she's not fat, and keep it until she does get fat, then break up. You don't even need to tell her at all.

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Old 15th March 2005, 02:37   #6
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Stop lying.

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Old 15th March 2005, 02:52   #7
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yea...I gotta learn to not be so honest

I also told her it was the same as if she started smoking or drinking heavily, or if I did. Made her think, but she still didn't like it
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Old 15th March 2005, 03:09   #8
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Yeah I've learned that the best thing to do is deny that she's fat no matter what she says:

"Hun, do you think I'm fat?"
"Of course not, babe; you've got slim, sexy body"

"Honey, would you still love me even if I let myself go and got really fat?"
"Babe, you've got slim, sexy body and I'd love you no matter what. Now why don't you put that hot body of yours to use?"

"I think I'm fat"
"Hun, you're not fat"
"You really think so?"
"Of course! Babe, you've got slim, sexy body"
"Are you calling me a slut?"
"No, of course not, I love you hun!"
"Awww... I love you too" *hugs*
"...But I don't undestand how you can love such a fat pig back!"
"Sweetheart, you're not fat"
"Yes I am! I'm a fat pig!"
"No you're not!"
"Yes I am!"
"Well if you really want to, I guess you could lose a pound or two..."
"I knew it! You think I'm fat!
"But sweet-" *arrgh!*

That's usually how my conversations went with my old GF.

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Old 15th March 2005, 03:31   #9
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If I cannot carry her off on my back in the event of an emergency, then she would need to lose a few pounds.

I am so important I feel the need to let it be known like a liberal discovering the internets for the first time. Uh hur hur hur. I also wash myself with a rag on a stick.
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Old 15th March 2005, 03:39   #10
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now THATS a compelling argument
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Old 15th March 2005, 04:03   #11
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Define 'fat.' It's possible for someone to put on a few pounds and still be fit, and it's possible for someone to completely let themselves go.
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fat = way overweight and generally unhealthy. I don't mind a few pounds here and there, but one of the many things that I fell in love with my g/f for was because she was athletic.
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Old 15th March 2005, 13:23   #13
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God help you if you ever get her pregnant then, will you be kicking her into touch then for getting all fat and stuff.

If I was her I'd have dumped you off the mark for being such a shallow individual to even come out with a comment like that.

Still, you are young yet, plenty of time to learn
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Old 15th March 2005, 13:29   #14
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I agree with your position and with shakey, though in the interests of keeping her as your gilfriend you might have emplyed a bit more tact.

I think people underestimate the importance of physical beauty and try to be deep and meaningful with the whole "inner beautfy" stuff. If you're going to spend an extended period of time with someone, it's not particularly great if you think "wow, she's such a great person, but I don't like how she's fat". It ruins things.
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God help you if you ever get her pregnant then, will you be kicking her into touch then for getting all fat and stuff.

If I was her I'd have dumped you off the mark for being such a shallow individual to even come out with a comment like that.

Still, you are young yet, plenty of time to learn
well the whole point is I want a healthy women for my children. If she is pregnant, then she already met those requirements
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Old 15th March 2005, 13:49   #16
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senario: u get married to a drop-dead-gorgeous gal, she get pregnant then has trouble losing the excess fat from the pregneancy (did i spell that right?) and becomes say, maybe not fat, but pudgy. then what happens?
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Old 15th March 2005, 13:57   #17
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Fuck her sister.
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Old 15th March 2005, 15:10   #18
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I agree with your position and with shakey, though in the interests of keeping her as your gilfriend you might have emplyed a bit more tact.

I think people underestimate the importance of physical beauty and try to be deep and meaningful with the whole "inner beautfy" stuff. If you're going to spend an extended period of time with someone, it's not particularly great if you think "wow, she's such a great person, but I don't like how she's fat". It ruins things.
In my experiance, people with attitudes towards relationships like yours don't have relationships that last anyways; so, I guess you've got nothing to worry about.


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Old 15th March 2005, 16:00   #19
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What women say and what they really mean...

We need. = I want.

It's your decision. = The correct decision should be obvious by now.

Do what you want. = You'll pay for this later.

We need to talk. = I need to complain.

Sure...go ahead. = I don't want you to.

I'm not upset. = Of course I'm upset, you moron.

You're...so manly. = You need a shave and you sweat a lot.

You're certainly attentive tonight. = Is sex all you ever think about?

I'm not emotional! And I'm not overreacting! = I'm on my period.

Be romantic, turn out the lights. = I have flabby thighs.

Hang the picture there. = No, I mean hang it there!

I heard a noise. = I noticed you were almost asleep.

Do you love me? = I'm going to ask for something expensive.

How much do you love me? = I did something today you're really not going to like..

I'll be ready in a minute. = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on T.V.

Is my butt fat? = Tell me I'm beautiful.

You have to learn to communicate. = Just agree with me.

Are you listening to me!? = [Too late, you're dead.]

Yes = No

No = No

Maybe = No

I'm sorry. = You'll be sorry.

I'm not yelling! = Yes I am yelling because I think this is important.

There's no one else. = I am doing your brother.

Size doesn't count... = unless I want an orgasm.

I'm just going out with the girls. = We are gonna get sloppy and make fun of you and your friends.



In answer to the question "What's wrong?"


The same old thing. = Nothing.

Nothing. = Everything.

Everything. = My PMS is acting up.

Nothing, really. = It's just that you're such an asshole.

I don't want to talk about it. = Go away, I'm still building up evidence against you.

Can't we just be friends? = There is no way in hell I am going to let any part of your body touch any part of mine, again.

I just need some space = ...without you in it

Can you help me with my homework? = If I keep whining, the fool will do it for me.

Do I look fat in this dress? = We haven't had a fight in a while.

No, pizza's fine = Cheap bastard

I just do not want a boyfriend now. = I just do not want (you as a) boyfriend.

I don't know; what do you want to do. = I can't believe that you have nothing planned.

I don't really mind where we eat =....As long as it's the place I've already decided on.

I like you but... = I don't like you.

You never listen. = You never listen.

We're moving too quickly. = I am not going to sleep with you until I find out if this guy in Bio has a girlfriend.

I'll be ready in a minute. = I AM ready, but I am going to make you wait because I know you will.

Oh Yes! Right there. = Well, near there; I just want to get this over with.



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Old 15th March 2005, 16:45   #20
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Fuck you, webthing

Funnily enough, hubby hasn't seen me "in shape". I hadn't quite managed to lose some of the weight from being pregnant with the rugrat. But, to be honest, I like the extra bit. Then there's the couple of pounds I've gained since the wedding from being on birth control. It's little more than I wanted around the tummy, but, I've got one hell of a cleavage and ass now
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Old 15th March 2005, 17:32   #21
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but, I've got one hell of a cleavage and ass now
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Old 15th March 2005, 17:36   #22
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I have to say, I do think skinny supermodel girls look pretty nasty.




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me too. I don't want a skinny girl either. I want a slim girl, like my girlfriend. She runs cross country, does track, and has a nice, healthy, athletic body. About 5'4, 115-120 pounds. She doesn't have a 6 pack, but she is slim.

If she gets pregnant and has trouble losing the weight, I'd help her, as I would hope she would help me if I had major surgery or something and I gained some un-necessary pounds. (i'm repeating myself though).
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Old 15th March 2005, 18:25   #24
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Fuck you, webthing

Funnily enough, hubby hasn't seen me "in shape". I hadn't quite managed to lose some of the weight from being pregnant with the rugrat. But, to be honest, I like the extra bit. Then there's the couple of pounds I've gained since the wedding from being on birth control. It's little more than I wanted around the tummy, but, I've got one hell of a cleavage and ass now
hehe..i noticed :P
ya the marriage thing always gets people fatter. even the men add on some weight. your happy thats all.
marriage,pregnancy..whatever.. love is whats on the inside,not the outside.

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Old 15th March 2005, 19:16   #25
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Old 15th March 2005, 20:05   #26
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In my experiance, people with attitudes towards relationships like yours don't have relationships that last anyways; so, I guess you've got nothing to worry about.
Just because I value physical appearances doesn't mean it's the only thing I value or the thing I value the most. What I wrote tells you very little about my attitude towards relationships.
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Old 16th March 2005, 12:24   #28
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The correct answer is "yes but i would help you to lose the weight for health reasons". And by correct, i mean it appeases her and still gets you out of answering properly.

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Old 16th March 2005, 13:06   #29
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Not ALL woman/girls/ladies appreciate being lied to.I happen to be one of those woman who wants teh truth and nothing but the truth.Why,because lieing in the end ,ends up biting ya in the ass.


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In my experience if a woman has to ask whether or not she looks fat, she already knows the answer.

I am so important I feel the need to let it be known like a liberal discovering the internets for the first time. Uh hur hur hur. I also wash myself with a rag on a stick.
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Old 16th March 2005, 14:01   #31
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I think you did the right thing. Hopefully for you she won't or else you might have to see how much you actually care. If I wasn't such a nerd and could actually get a girlfriend, I'd tell her she was fat if she was and if she got fat I'd dump her ass. That was unless I actually cared about her.

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Old 16th March 2005, 14:37   #32
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The perfect answer:

Her: "Am I fat"
You: "Yeah, and I like fat girls"

How can she answer?




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Old 16th March 2005, 17:20   #33
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When ever a girl I know thinks she's getting fat, my response is usually along the lines of "What? Have you SEEN fat people? They're a lot bigger than you are."


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hehe..i noticed :P
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Old 17th March 2005, 00:01   #35
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Her: "Do these jeans make me look fat?"

Me: "No. Your fat butt makes you look fat."

...and my death comes swiftly.



But seriously, physical appearance has nothing to do with love, but only with lust. In most healthy relationships both are there, love and lust. And goodness knows most of us want "the whole package"...great mind, eternal kindness and a body to die for. But it is possible to have love with no physical attraction. Don't take "no physical attraction" to mean revulsion. If you get sick in the presence of the other person, then that introduces other problems. But "attraction apathy" would not kill a relationship by itself as long as the participants are both mature people.

But dlink makes another good point. If a person "lets themself go" and becomes very overweight, it's a cause of concern. But not because of their weight directly; that's just a symptom. What causes the weight gain is the thing to worry about.

Genetics? ---No one's fault, but incurs health risks.

Depression-related overeating? ---Again, no one's fault, but with this there's two problems...one physical and one mental.

Contentment? ("I'm happy, I've found love, and I don't have to care about myself to attract a relationship anymore.") ---The fault of the person who chooses this route, and unfair to their lover.

It's not about being slim. It's about being healthy. I've known many women who were not slim, but who were quite healthy and attractive.

Being healthy isn't a reason for someone to love you, but the cause for it (taking care of yourself) could be. It shows that you love yourself. Because lets face it...if you don't love yourself, how could you expect anyone else to?

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Old 17th March 2005, 06:10   #36
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The perfect answer:

Her: "Am I fat"
You: "Yeah, and I like fat girls"

How can she answer?

nah the perfect answer (or a good one at least) is:
"I'd do you."

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and then reply that fat girls give better head because they a re hungry
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Old 17th March 2005, 06:57   #38
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There is a difference between being honest and being a Jerk. If I had a girlfriend and she got fat I would most likely dump her. I wouldn't lie to her if she asked me. If you said yes to that question thats just a liscence to get fat right there. A mandate. Political Capital to pig out.

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oh... I always thought when a girl asked you "Would you still love me if I was fat" meant "Do you love me right now?"

She could be cornering you either way. That "no" might've been a bit more damaging..

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oh... I always thought when a girl asked you "Would you still love me if I was fat" meant "Do you love me right now?"
Something like that. Seriously, if you love somebody, it shouldn't matter what they look like, right? Hopefully you successfully changed your answer to "I'd still love you but I'd help you not be fat" because if she didn't believe it, she'll probably still hold that against you.


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