Old 24th August 2003, 04:04   #1
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Relationships with Your Parents

How do you and your parent[s]/guardian[s] get along?

Me? My mom and I get along pretty good. I am confortable telling her a lot of stuff that most kids wouldn't tell their parents. I can tell her about a friend that got drunk or a kid that cut class, and I know she won't tell the kids parents (unless it is a life/death situation, but in that case i'd tell their parents anyway). We watch TV together at night, shows liek Scrubs and Boston Public. We have a pretty good understand about how my social life works. I understand that yes, I am still living at home, and as such have responsibilites around here, but she also knows that I am 18, and as long as I tell her where I am going and who I think I am going with/meetnig there, she is cool with it. We also have an agreeement that if I won't be home before midnight, I call to let her know so she can keep the front door unlocked. I have a lot of respect for my mom. She has raised 5 kids bascily by herself for the past 6 years. My dad got laid off 6 years ago and has basicly been working freelance all across teh country ([nuculear] engineer). We never saw him much, and I guess I never got to know him becuse he wasn't really around durnig my 'puberty' years, but IDK. When he is home, it is weird. He doesn't really seem to haev a place here. We are so used to him not being here. I really only look to him when I need money or something for the computer. I don't like my dad much, and I kinda hope he'd get a job far away again, but I think my mom needs him here. It is rough.
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Old 24th August 2003, 04:08   #2
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mom and me are constantly at each others throats.
Step-dad is okay.
Step mom is a huge bitch
Dad is whipped.

huh. surprisingly how little bitterness is left.

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Old 24th August 2003, 04:08   #3
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but I think my mom needs him here.
You may not like him, but your mom needs that support if he is still around even though he travels around so much. So its a good thing that he is around because you know, if he wasn't that money woulnd't be there and would you be on the computer right now? Maybe, maybe not...but anyway. My relationship with my Dad, mom, and step dad is amazing. I tell them anything that I want too, and they completly trust me. When im going out, all they ask is when are you coming home, and they have no problems. They dont really ask who im hanging out with, what are we doing etc.. because they know im not going to be doing something that they might end up getting a call from me in the middle of the night saying "im in jail can you bail me out" or something to that extent.

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Old 24th August 2003, 04:10   #4
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Fine with mom, fine with dad, fine with step-mom...

No drama here.

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I forgot his name though...
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Old 24th August 2003, 04:18   #5
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My dad...

He's a fucking alcoholic, he used to be a drug addict (cocain, oxycontin, valium...), a total asshole, a cheater (cheated on my mom 3 times that I know of).

And for just being an all around asshole.

My mom...

For being so stupid to stay with my dad and take his shit. For never doing anything for me when my dad goes on one of his asscapades (starts ordering everyone to do everything all the time and yelling). And not leaving my dad when he treats her like shit.
that about covers it.
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Old 24th August 2003, 05:24   #6
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dad is awesome, lets me do as i please and helps me wit hanything i need.

mom is another story completely. her mother was an alcoholic and abusive, so she never had a mother figure to teach her how to be a parent. and it shows. daamn, does it show.
she:
1) has no idea of the concept of picking her battles - every little thing needs to be talked out in no less than half an hour

2) constantly fucking harps on me for the smallest things imaginable ("You know, you shouldn't speed up past the speed limit to pass people')

3) actually picks fights with me that she knows she will lose, then tried to guilt me into giving up by saying that my "style of arguement makes her feel like an idiot" (she admitted later that she realized that she was so wrong that she felt dumb, it had nothing to do with me)

4) all-around bitches all the time. I once tried to figure out when she was pmsing so that I could stay out of her way at those times of the month, but I realized that she is equally bitchy 365 days of teh fucking year.


/me needed to get that off his chest.

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Old 24th August 2003, 06:19   #7
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ugh....Turn 18, move oou, get over it.
If your parents don't like you, then tough! But odds are you have something to do with that.
Usually parents get a lot cooler once you leave the house though, when they finally get the idea that they're no longer in controll.
My parents were A** holes, but once I moved out and got married.....they're some of my best friends!

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Old 24th August 2003, 06:32   #8
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My dad and I have a great relationship. We are much more like brothers then a son/father relationship. My mom on the other hand has some mental issues. She started off by being OCD then became somewhat bipolar after time. I love her and every thing but she can get on my nerves at times. The two are of course divorced and I live with my dad and his girl friend. Don't like her much because of her kids. They are drugies and have stolen many of my things.

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Old 24th August 2003, 07:22   #9
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I don't have much of a relationship with my parents. They're assholes, so I try to avoid them. My mom acts like an immature brat and teases me when my sisters do, for stuff I wont mention. She whines because I talk to her, yet why would I want to talk to some bitch who makes fun of me. My dad calls me a faggot most of the time, and they usually are only nice to me if they need pc help.


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Old 24th August 2003, 07:57   #10
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ugh, my family in general actually caused a lot of my depression, although my dad has been backing off a lot ever since i told him that i was diagnosed with that. but, for the most part it's an ok relationship with the folks. ever since the big "argument" between my mom and my ex, they've backed off from chipping away at my self esteem as a person and as a mother. so, now, i can say that we have a decent relationship now.
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Old 24th August 2003, 14:26   #11
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Good with mom and dad.

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Old 24th August 2003, 15:43   #12
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I get along pretty well with both my parents. My Mom is always very understanding and lets me do basically anything I want, although always stopping to put her two cents in and nag me if I'm doing something she doesn't approve of, but she lets it go after a little while. She's still over-protective though. I am nearly 20 and I think she still waits up for me, sometimes till after 2:00AM when I go out to a club or something... not that there's anything wrong with that, I just think that when it comes time for me to move out, she's gonna freak out.

My Dad and I generally get along, he always helps me with my car and just loaned me copious amounts of money to buy a new car, and is letting me pay him back at my leisure. He can be demanding sometimes, expecting me to quit whatever I'm doing and come and help him at any time, immediately. He's got a short fuse sometimes, but I find that if I go and help him with his pointless little jobs around the house, we get on fine.
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Old 24th August 2003, 16:38   #13
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I have only one thing to say: Asian parents are bloody facists.
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Old 24th August 2003, 16:48   #14
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Old 24th August 2003, 16:59   #15
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I get along well with my parents, the relationship certainly got better after I had been gone for a year when I was 16/17. Now I'm moving out which will be good because I love my parents and they love me back but sometimes seeing each other permanently will lead to fights over something very unimportant. But this is normal so I htink we are a pretty normal family (as far as this exists!)

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Old 24th August 2003, 17:00   #16
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I have only one thing to say: Asian parents are bloody facists.

i soooo understand where you're coming from. at least you're a son, try life as an asian daughter, it was not fun
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Old 24th August 2003, 17:34   #17
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my father appears to have left the country.

i get on really well with my mum...

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Old 24th August 2003, 18:21   #18
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i soooo understand where you're coming from. at least you're a son, try life as an asian daughter, it was not fun
heh, just wondering how do you know that?

You are not azn r u? At least you don't look azn..
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Old 24th August 2003, 19:37   #19
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Im gonna start my weblog again (I started it in june, and haven’t touched it since.)

My parents are typical ambitious, greedy, lower-middle class people who basically didn’t give me a fucking chance of growing up into something resembling a human being. Currently going through psychotherapy, tho my therapist is away for a month and im starting to miss our sessions…she comes back next Thursday, tho.
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Old 25th August 2003, 01:02   #20
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im fine with both parents


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Old 25th August 2003, 04:55   #21
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heh, just wondering how do you know that?

You are not azn r u? At least you don't look azn..

I get that a lot! I'm half white, half Filippino.
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Old 25th August 2003, 04:59   #22
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I get that a lot! I'm half white, half Filippino.

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Old 25th August 2003, 15:29   #23
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meh, get on ok with parents. theyre kinda unfair about allowance compared to parents of other local kids my age, but thats about it...
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I get that a lot! I'm half white, half Filippino.
same as my flatmate and friend, bizarrely.

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Mum - OK. Have you evere comforted your mum after a row with dad?

Dad - Yuck. He was not here during my puberty, so I made my life so, that I just can basically get around without him. What I hate is, that he comes after two weeks home and starts organizing things that have already been taken care of. And when I tell him he goes like :" why are you saying that in such words, am I an idiot?!". My mum needs him here, but he's not here, so I (as the older son) took after some of his responsibilities, what pisses him really off...

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Old 27th August 2003, 23:46   #26
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Mom = Mom.
Dad = Responsible. Like poles repel (his words)

















I see the Asian thing is not an anomaly.....

I am so important I feel the need to let it be known like a liberal discovering the internets for the first time. Uh hur hur hur. I also wash myself with a rag on a stick.
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Old 28th August 2003, 00:00   #27
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My mom and i don't talk
Fuckin amazing that we live in the same house
Don't know why, never bothered to figure it out really
no hate,not much else
Dad........i found a picture of him
i think he's dead
not quite sure
again never bothered to find out
i kinda grew myself
don't try that at home kids
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Old 28th August 2003, 03:57   #28
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If I had to answer to my dad more often I think my life would be sooooo much better than it is. My mom is like a power hungry dictator, and she wants things her way or no way. That's why I stopped talking to her for a couple months. Didn't do anything to her, so I don't care now. All she does is bitch, too bad I'll be in my 30s when she hits menopause.
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Old 28th August 2003, 04:11   #29
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I am not really close to my parents...or my family. I don't like m mom very much..she is a control freak..and my dad works a lot so I never see him. Mom cant accept my beliefs or what I plan on doing in the future..she always calls it an obsession to work in the gaming industry. -_-
Yeah..my family was the cause for my depression as well...my friends are more like my family..
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Old 28th August 2003, 21:32   #30
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Wow, there are some very interesting relations here. It's to bad that many people don't get along with their parents. I used to hate my dad one time due to lies my mom told me about him. My dad seems to be much more truthful but may keep things away from me. But in my opinion that is much better then telling a negative lie about something or someone.

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Old 28th August 2003, 21:39   #31
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I look down on my dad as he acts like a child and sometimes I feel that I am the father of the family it gets that odd and weird with him.

I love and respect my mum, she would give anything for me, but I don't share my mind with her, she wouldn't understand / accept as her beliefs are strognly routed in suppressive Christianity, and she often considers a problem I have as not a problem at all and I will get the responce "min les belares" (don't be silly). Little protective still, traditional Greek.
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I've been to the extremes of the spectrum... Teen years: Absolutely hated my parents.. I was almost a runaway, put into a 'hospital' against my will (nothing wrong with me.. go figure), and well.. a complete mess. Our relationship was horrible. Fighting every single day.

Then.. after my Junior year in HS, things got better. Now, going into my 3rd year of college, my parents are some of my best friends. I wouldn't have the opportunities I do now without them.

So.. When I say, I've seen it all... I'm generally not kidding
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my father appears to have left the country.
You say that as if it's not a big deal...


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