I have no need for relationships at this point in my life - at this point a waste of mental and financial resources.
I present to the court Exhibit A - my sister.
This allows me to watch, impartially, the ever growing number of my sister's failed relationships. Like a scientific experiment... I observe the stages of relationships: Lust, happiness, tolerance, then trouble, then uneasy peace, then more trouble, (these previous 2 repeat themselves once or twice occasionally), the climactic breakup, the "retreat to friends house", the weeklong anti-social "All Men are BASTARDS" period, then "Well, some men are OK", acceptance, and then flirtation.
Repeat ad infinitum.
The same goes for my brother as well - but the stages seem to last longer in duration. I attribute that to him giving expensive gifts early in the game (diamond earings after 2 months!).
Young people are very bad at committing to anything - a romance more so than ever. And in case they do tie the knot, half of all marriages that begin before age 20 end in divorce.
There is definitely a need to be seen among peers "with an other" to maintain social status... especcially in school... that is the tenuous string that keeps many of the "relationships" together. Observe- again, my sister as your case study. She considers entering into a thing with a guy who she thinks is somewhat obnoxius. We go to starbucks ... she wants to talk me about it. (I being the love expert of course
) I ask about him - she says he's funny, but sometimes takes it too far. He also makes comments about her weight. My sister is the acme of natural beauty- anything concerning her size is sorely unfounded. I say "why begin with this guy?" "I like him" "What are your goals with this relationship - do you ever want to be dumped again or is this the one? Because the coin only lands 2 ways. Either in break-up or marriage. You must confront that eventuality" No anwser, she changes the subject.
She begins to see him.
He dumps her 2 months later. She is surprised and heartbroken.
My question is why? I glean this anwser from watching similar patterns: You have to identify from the begining how both parties regard future plans. In this case, my sister was oblivious and he was interested in a short fling. Other times, my sister wanted to go all the way and he wanted it short term. And yet in others it was her who wanted the quick arrangement and the poor guy who was devoted to the end.
Both sexes have their peculiarities in reasoning, but these are variables. All guys don't cheat. Some women are entirely interested in sex. The only thing one can do is identify motivations and future plans as early on as possible, and then intelligently proceed using your knowledge.
I think Men and
Women are the downfall of society.