Long distance relationships

[White Jade]

Do you think a long distance relationship will really work! All my friends say it won't and they put me down but I really like this guy and we've been dating for like 6 and a half months! I just wish people would be a little more optimistic

[Joel]

Is relative impossible, you know...
you here...him there...
But if you trust him, no problem little dudette

[White Jade]

Thank you!

[Huehuetenango]

yes, it is possible
it's not easy, but it is possible
i've gotten through one year of it, so far
i go to school in one city, my girlfriend in another
all year ppl were trying to get me to make out or sleep w/ other girls
if you trust your partner, and if he trusts you, it'll work
if ppl are putting you down for it, they aren't your friends
your friends would be supporting you in your decision, helping you to get through this

[cyana]

hmm .. from my own experience - unfortunately, no
there are moments, when you need your partner so badly,
physically. It is so easy to misunderstand each other when you talk without seeing the other one's face. And the connection is quite fragile - one email that does not reach its receiver, one icq message that did not make it through, one phonecall left unanswered can already cause a big crack. The rare time spent together is mostly used for enjoying each other, while problems are kept away ..

I wouldn't say it's a mission impossible, but I ran through it for three years and .. now that it is over you discover how lonely you really are. You havn't met friends for a long time, because you've spent all your time in front of your monitor, all your feelings were addressed to words flickering on the screen, you've forgotten how your city looks like, how to communicate, how to live. Noone to whom you could talk to in a moment where you urgently need a listening heart. And the worst - you still have those very first emails, you still can browse through your broken dreams, it's nearly impossible to let them go ...
oh well, I wish you all the best ..

[Avion]

I know this....
If two people really care,
really love each other,
all things are possible.




p.s. I replyed to your e-mail

[xzit]

Anything is possible. Unfortunately, there are limits for many people. I guess it just says something about a person's character - if you and your partner can make it than both of you are strong people.

[Kinetik*]

Sorry for reviving this old thread, but IMO, yeah, long distance relationships can work. It has to do with how much you want to be with that person, and how much you can trust that person. I've been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 25 months yesterday (May 22nd, 2003) I've only seen her... 4 or 5 times, and we didn't even kiss until the second time I met her. We're both Virgins, and we're willing to stay that way for as long as it takes for us to be able to be together.

Yeah yeah, I'm a loser virgin, I know.

pwned..

[DJ Shredder]

Speaking from personal experience, yes, it can work. It is, however, incredibly taxing on both people and truly excerises the trust you have in your partner. If you are a person who can stand being away from your loved one for extended periods of time, and completely trust them to be faithful to you, and if you both believe in the relationship, then of course it can work.

I wouldn't recommend it, personally, after being through one, I don't know if I'd ever do it again, but speaking for myself, I really like to have the person right there, so that you can be with them whenever you want. Missing someone you feel so strongly about is so hard. But it certainly is possible. If you're strong enough.

[dlinkwit27]

Originally posted by Fazer
Yeah yeah, I'm a loser virgin, I know.

me and my penguin beleiev in abstinance as well. no loser virgins here, jsut virgins with diferent moral values than those who arn't

[d0rk]

Originally posted by dlinkwit27
me and my penguin beleiev in abstinance as well. no loser virgins here, jsut virgins with diferent moral values than those who arn't

/me raises hands...im there with yah


I've been in a 30 mile long distance relationship for almost 10 months now. We see each other about 1 day every week for about 8 hours, and then we talk on the phone constantly, but the phone calls arn't long distance. It can work with the right people.

[Kinetik*]

Thanks Dlink, d0rk

Me and my girlfriend live aproximately 700 miles apart from one another, an 11 hour drive. I first met her 7 months into the relationship. But it's all good, it's all worth it.

[Kyjan]

In my opinion, you need three things to make a relationship work:

1. Trust - this is on every relationship, but definately tested with a long distance relationship. Can you trust someone you never see?

2. Communication - if you can't talk with the person you're wanting to be in a relationship with over distance (phone, e-mail, other forms), then it's useless.

3. Respect - get to know each other well enough before you decide that. Make sure it's not just a "heat of the night" bit or something like that...

You all probably already knew that, but I'll put my two cents in anyway...

[ShyShy]

Tried it twice, I was the one willing to work it, but long distance takes the both of you. Not easy but, I've seen it work for others, just not for me.

[baafie]

Difficult, but possible. Provided you see each other on a regular basis.