Accidental Conflict (In One Mind)

[Pixelcraft]

I was going to wash the dishes today, and I was getting everything ready, when I saw a cup with some tea in it. The only person who drinks tea in my house is my mom. So she walks by and I ask her "Do you want me to pour this out or do you still want it?" And she has bad hearing, so to her it sounds like "I'm getting an attitude."

She responds: "Oh drop the attitude! Do you like picking fights with me? I think you do! I think when you're bored you just conjure up something to yell at me about, like "why don't you ever put things back where you found them" and stupid things like that! Just get over it! I don't believe your ways!"

And all I did was ask a simple question.....

[Joel]

wao! when moms turn bad
Did you explain to her the real deal?

[Pixelcraft]

You know, I tried, and I tried, but she just doesn't listen.

[Joel]

Maybe if you speak up little more, or write
to her... I don't know....
Maybe she is a little sad for her ear problem
so she get a little mad when you talk to her
and she understand other thing

[Pixelcraft]

No she heard what I said. And she said to herself, "I'm a happy-go lucky person." So she doesn't care about her problem, and she's not willing to fix it either, that's what pisses me off. She just thinks "Oh well, that's I am, I'm not gonna try and change it." She also told me that.

And another thing; she's too honest (if that makes any sense) but I mean, something like, if my cousin is getting all sad because my brother is going to war, she wouldn't understand why my cousin would be crying, because "that's the way it goes." She thinks it's funny when my brother leaves home because "Now is the time for everyone to cry, hahaha" She thinks she's just being funny.

It's like she doesn't even have an ounce of drama in her personality, no matter how bad something gets. And that can get really frustrating.

[Joel]

I'm sorry dude
and also for you mom
Try to understand her.
It's must be frustrating for her, in a way.

[jon_joy_1999]

I would lay it straight. tell her how I feel when she does that, and if she doesn't care, pull a Gubment Cheez and leave home. (if she won't talk to you then don't talk to her. silent treatment that might get her to talk.

[White Raven]

I can offer you words of understanding. My mom's the SAME WAY.

[xzit]

That's a tough sit Pixelcraft.

I don't know what I'd do if I couldn't talk to mom. I sure as hell can't get along with my father, so she (along with my twin brother) is my source of counseling. It works out well. She's given me a lot of good advice over the past couple of years.